Then what makes an orgy conscious? While this is not a formally defined concept, elements that would typically enhance the conscious aspect of any gathering, especially an orgy, would relate to:

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• Sobriety and clear mindedness (this might also include extreme emotions, so entering the space angry or sad is less likely to enable conscious connection)

• Personal connection between attendees, either through previous familiarity or by tuning in through exercises, sharing, or simply spending time together

• Clear, commonly agreed upon rules

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Especially in a space that is intended to enable arousal and attraction, we want to feel safe and to know that our boundaries are respected. This is not possible in states of inebriation, without agreements, and without feeling connected to the people in the space. So in a way, there is  already an implication that a good orgy is a conscious orgy. 

 

So now that we know what we’re talking about, what’s the point of going?

 

For some, the answer to this question might be super obvious: It’s fun! It brings new experiences! I get to meet like minded people! I can play and explore in a safe, held environment in a way that doesn’t easily arise spontaneously!

 

For others, the first thing on their mind might be: it Could be fun, But!

If this is you, take a moment to figure out why this is what comes to your mind. Specifically, why do you imagine it would be fun? What could be the aspects could make it not so fun?

 

Whatever your specific concerns are, as hosts we focus on creating a shared, connected experience. What this means in detail will be different for every person. What’s important for us is that everyone feels supported in their process, that no one feels left out or left behind, and to help you tune in with a positive aspect of your experience, whether it means going deeper or stepping out. For some, this experience might be more sexual, for others less. There is no expectation. Having more sex or being more sexual doesn’t mean participating more deeply in the space.

 

There are further aspects, beyond immediate pleasure experiences, that make participating in a conscious orgiastic space worth while. Purely considering to go can start a conversation around clarifying aspects of your relationship agreements with your partner/s. And if the person accompanying you is not a romantic or sexual partner, it can bring clarity to your own wishes and desires around feeling comfortable and supported in entering into a space of exploration: do you want your partner to be fully available to you or prioritize you to encounters they may have in the space or is everyone free to follow their whim? Maybe you have a code word to signify, without needing to have a discussion in the moment, that you would like to have a time out and step to the side together to tune in or check in about something.

 

On yet a deeper level, experiencing socio-sexual spaces can be an excellent sounding board and mirror for yourself. Typically, in traditional or mainstream society, sex is something shared only between two people in a private space. This format is heavily socially reenforced, in the sense that sex in non-private places is typically met critically or can lead to confrontations. However, sharing a sexual experience, either by expanding the number of people directly involved, witnessing and being witnessed (which is different from a voyeur/exhibitionist dynamic), or simply sharing a space with other people engaged in their own sexual scenario, can be a beautifully liberating experience, help lift apprehensions, create connection and familiarity, raise self-confidence and enable dialog.

 

All and any of the reasons mentioned above can be a great and legitimate reason to go to a conscious orgy. If you have doubts or questions, you are always encouraged to contact the organizers. There is no need to present as particularly experienced, if you are not. Letting people in on your needs and desires is exactly what enables the best experience for everyone.